Do you clam up when it comes to talking in front of people? Do your nerves prevent you from thinking clearly and acting confidently when you need to? Would you be more successful if you were able to be more relaxed and confident?
Stage fright and examination nerves are examples of stress reactions. Stress can help us to perform at our best but too much of it prevents us from thinking or communicating clearly. These reactions can be a phobic type response to very specific triggers or be an example of a more general fear of being ‘seen’ or judged. For some they may even be protecting from the unwanted consequences of being successful.
Working effectively with these issues requires more than just covering them up by acting confident – this could come across as a flimsy arrogance and may break down after a while. True mastery will allow you to accept yourself and open up to others. What used to feel stressful can then be an exciting opportunity to help others understand your point of view, to invite them to change their minds, to be inspired by your passion, and to be motivated to take action.
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Do you want to be able to relax and let go in bed? Do you want to experience more or better orgasms? Want to learn to help your partner to experience more pleasure?
Sex is one of are most basic and natural instinctive acts – a joining at the physical, emotional and spiritual levels. Many things can prevent us from sharing this connection: guilt, fear, self-image issues, inhibitions, childhood trauma, performance anxiety, lack of sex drive, sexual incompatibility and the like. A sexual problem can often have it’s roots in other aspects of our life.
Working as a single or a couple you will learn to be open and honest about the way that you feel. You will explore what you would like sex to be like and what needs to change in order to experience it. Change work may include releasing energy blocks in the body, emotions and deciding to live by new values. Practical assignments will help you to rediscover your sexual self and each other. All clients are encouraged to read my book ‘Sex in Mind’.
Working as a psychotherapist it is against my ethics to engage in any sexual contact with clients. That means that sessions on sexual issues will involve no physical touch. If you are interested in sex therapy in which touch is included I recommend you seek out a ‘Daka’ or ‘Dakini’. These are therapists – often with a strong interest in tantra – who are trained to work more intimately than my ethics allow.
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Problems in the family or primary relationship? Are you hurt by or hurting the people you love most? Are the relationships worth saving?
When we are close to people we tend to hold back less and say things in the heat of the moment. We often assume that we know what people are thinking and interpret their behaviour in one way when their actual intention may be completely different. Eventually the very sight or thought of someone can trigger negative emotions from the past – creating new problems now.
The change process will help you to be honest with each other about the way things are now and develop a shared sense of what you would like your relationship to be like in the future. You may have some individual ‘stuff’ to work on before you can regain your sense of connection, appreciate the best in each other and choose how you would like to continue.
I believe it is best but not essential for all parties involved to decide to work through things together. I never see people who have been ‘sent’ to me.
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Are you finding that your habits are causing you increasing levels of discomfort or affecting the way you behave around others? Are you worried that unless you make some changes your future health and relationships are likely to suffer? Are you determined to stop but feel that something is preventing you from making that change?
Habits can feel so difficult to change because they can involve many interrelated issues: the ‘physical’ addiction, limiting beliefs around self image or what is possible, emotions that the habit helps us to avoid, internal conflict due to the ‘pleasure’ being lost, unconscious responses to trigger situations and the reactions of friends and family to the change in behaviour. Trying to ‘break’ the pattern or (nicotine) patch it up without addressing all the underlying issues may well make it stronger or lead to an alternative addiction or compulsion developing.
Because of the complexity of factors involved passive ‘one size fits all’ ‘guaranteed in just one hour’ hypnosis approaches may not achieve the lasting results they promise. Dr David Shephard, one of my first NLP teachers told a version of the following story:
‘A man went to a traditional hypnotherapist offering a guaranteed stop smoking cure. During the session the hypnotherapist used suggestions to distort the man’s sense of taste to the effect that, from that moment on, every cigarette would taste of camel dung. He then utilised suggestions of amnesia so the client would consciously forget the session.
‘A couple of weeks later the hypnotherapist was walking down the street and saw the client coming the other way … smoking! He remembered that the session seemed to go well so he asked the client ‘How is the smoking?’. To which the client smiled and replied ‘They taste like shit, but you get used to it.’
For a complete and lasting solution it is best to identify the particular issues which affect you and resolve them all. When you have made these changes you will find that you have the clarity, congruence and determination to say ‘no’ to the addiction in a way that it believes you. You will know that it is you who is consciously deciding to make this change and to enforce your boundary. You will have a stronger sense of who you are, what you want, and your ability to take action to get it.
Do seemingly small things stir up strong feelings of anger, sadness, fear, guilt or depression? You try to push the feelings away but they keep on coming back stronger and stronger?
Uncomfortable emotions build up over time because they were not fully resolved in the moment they arose. Situations in the now can bring back emotions that have been growing since childhood. Rather than helping us to react to situations they begin to be a burden … our overreactions can become difficult for those we live and work with. The constant presence of these emotions demanding our attention distorts our experience of life and we can begin to perceive the world as a negative place to be.
Releasing emotions from your memories using regression techniques such as Time Line Therapy or directly from your body lets you return to a normal calm, relaxed state of being that many people describe as like ‘coming home’. The energy that was trapped inside becomes available to you again and you become balanced. You will still experience emotions but they are appropriate to the situation and you can work with them rather than against them. You will have more choices over your actions and may find that situations that used to cause you problems simply do not develop any more.