Anxiety treatment

Are you nervous and light headed?  Is that a knot in your stomach?  Are you afraid that something bad is going to happen?

Anxiety can stop us from doing the things that we know will make us happy in the long run.  It can seem like it is keeping us safe but eventually the negative consequences of avoidance become … unavoidable.

My name is Richard. I am an experienced psychotherapist trained to heal the causes of anxiety. I can work with you to find the courage to do the things you want to do. When you are ready you can request a free 30 minute consultation.

What is anxiety?

According to ICD-10 Generalised Anxiety disorder is:

Anxiety that is generalized and persistent but not restricted to, or even strongly predominating in, any particular environmental circumstances (i.e. it is “free-floating”). The dominant symptoms are variable but include complaints of persistent nervousness, trembling, muscular tensions, sweating, lightheadedness, palpitations, dizziness, and epigastric discomfort. Fears that the patient or a relative will shortly become ill or have an accident are often expressed.

One of the first definitions of anxiety I hear described it as a ‘fear trapped in the future’.  The idea is that if you are holding the image of the future going wrong and leading to some kind of traumatic event then your body will respond with a fight of flight stress response now.  There is no action to be taken right now and so we experience this as a stuck sense of anxiety.

When my clients tune into their experience of anxiety they often describe it as like a knot, ball of stress, or even a clingy tentacled creature.  When I ask them if this energy belongs to them they usually say ‘no’.  The logical conclusion?  Anxiety is a parasitic energy in our body that we are allowing to stay.  We let it stay because it brings us a big benefit: it warns us of potential danger.  By acting on its warnings we get to avoid the potential consequences of this danger such as, physical pain, emotional suffering, and death.  We have felt these things before and we are afraid of feeling them again so we agree with the anxiety that they must be avoided at all costs.  The anxiety gets to stay and gets to be in control of us.  It is kind of like a cork that we use to plug a dark place within ourselves.  While it may be somewhat uncomfortable it is, at least, dependable and something of a companion.

How do you treat anxiety?

The key to resolving anxiety is to stop avoiding and appeasing it and to face up to and to accept the emotional consequences of the worst happening.  Easier said than done! One of my mantras is that you can have what you want if you are prepared to accept the consequences.

The main approach I use to treat anxiety is very direct, deep, and powerful: I will teach you to separate from the grip of the anxiety itself. In your imagination you will move the anxiety out of your body and progressively disconnect each place where it attaches.  It will not want to go and so you will need to be firm and determined.  You will follow each connection to the place where it attaches to your body and will consider the emotional consequences of letting the anxiety go.  This could be the experience of anger, grief, loneliness, etc.  As you choose to experience, rather than avoid this emotion then the anxiety doesn’t have anything to hold onto and begins to loose its grip on you.

As the anxiety falls away you may experience the grief of loosing an old friend.  If the anxiety was plugging a hole then you will begin to feel that lonely emptiness.  Rather than find something else from the outside to fill that hole I will guide you into it, into the unknown.  This is where you will discover the lonely self who has been trapped in that hole.  As you re-connect and resolve any issues that were passed on to you by your family then you will fill up with an inner love.  You will gain in confidence and you will develop a trust that you can handle life … even when it does not go to plan.

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Would you like to to become more confident and courageous?  I work via video call.  Request a free 30 minute consultation.

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6 thoughts on “Anxiety treatment

  1. jane

    Reading the above information is amazng. I have had anxiety for majjority of my life so much so, I am agrophobic and have been for 25yrs. I have no life outside my home. It is a very lonely existance. I have tried so many different form s of treatment……open mindede existed about it, only hypnosis worked but I had three years of it to assist curing me, then incident happened and bame fully phobic again ?

  2. Kathleen McNicholas

    I suffer terrible anxitey attacks. I wiorry about everything. My best friend for 33years dropped me out. It is always playing on my mind. Have,nt an idea why.
    Can you help me please.
    Thank you.

    1. Richard Evans-Lacey Post author

      Hi Kathleen,

      Thanks for your comment. What does ‘dropped me out’ mean? Is that as a result of your anxious behaviour or a suspected cause?

      I may be able to help. Do you live in London?



  3. AMY

    I recently finished uni and stayed in london to get a job, be successful and make everyone proud. I kept going for job interviews or getting replies of rejection. A lot of my friends went back to their homes, and I found it sad that every penny I got from my crappy waitressing job went on rent. I then started to feel dizzy – like everything was going passed me and I couldn’t focus or keep up, like I was drunk. I then had a strange turn at a wedding, I thought I was going to be sick, my heart was racing and found it hard to breath. I went outside, rang my mum and burst out crying. I was always such a happy, positive person, a great laugh and someone fun to be around. Why was this happening? I am still suffering from it a lot, so much that my brain feels like it’s going to explode. I;m still going to work but I feel safe in bed alone. I am getting so down because of it. I tell myself it’s a phase and I am grateful that one of my good friends has gone through exactly how I was feeling. I have a lot of friends that care about me, but feel if i keep feeling like this then no one will want to be around me. Can you please help in anyway?

    1. Richard Evans-Lacey Post author

      Hi Amy,

      Thanks for your post. Here are some thoughts:

      Sounds like you left your body a bit in panic … possibly preceded by a period of denial about your situation? It could be that some early life stuff is coming to the surface. Possibly something to do with being away from your mum and vulnerable in the world.

      Who specifically would you like to make proud? I wonder if the jobs were ones that really suited you, that you really wanted? I wonder if there is a fear of letting people down in there somewhere? Perhaps with a fear of being rejected if you are not good enough? (Hense attracting the rejection into your life.)

      All of this stuff can be discovered and resolved in the safety of the therapy room. Once your energy is clear then new opportunities will probably present themselves.

      Give me a bell if you would like to discuss the possibility of working together.


  4. joshua

    Hi please I’m also having same big time problem that I don’t know how 2 control myself anymore my stomach is melting down I don’t know wat to do.this anxiety is taking over me


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