I keep attracting the wrong kind of relationships, can a psychotherapist help?

Do you feel unable to find that special someone?  Do you consistently seem to attract the ‘wrong’ type of person?  Do you find yourself putting on an act when you talk to a potential partner?

It is easy to blame external factors for a lack of suitable partner; the first step is to take responsibility for the situation.  Unresolved issues and the beliefs we hold lead us to unconsciously seek out relationships which support or fuel them.  In particular we are likely to continually attract relationships that play out aspects of our parents’ relationship.  If we do not genuinely love and respect ourselves we send out the message that we are not deserving of these feelings back.  When we try to cover up our insecurities we can come across as arrogant or superficial.

Gaining a real understanding of what is important to you will help you to let go of any fears and limiting beliefs and focus on what you really want in a relationship.  Realising what is attractive about yourself will help others to see this in you.  You can begin to enjoy going out there, meeting new people, being natural, friendly and flirtatious.

 

Search engine blurb: for help with relationships you could contact a psychotherapist in east london, an nlp practitioner in east london, or a hypnotherapist in east london.  NLP is just a label for a set of tools and techniques, many of which use hypnosis approaches to supporting your change.  Psychotherpy is the name given to the provision of this support by a qualified psychotherapist. 

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