Rather than working to a prescriptive structure or script I prefer to let each session find its own natural rhythm and flow. Rather than ‘talking about’ your problems I will support and guide you as you face them and get to the bottom of them. Rather than plugging or binding the cracks with further coping strategies we will aim to find and resolve the causes of the stresses that led to the cracks appearing in the first place. These causes may be from your lifetime, generations ago in your family history or even in a past life. My direct approach often enables very deep work to be done in a brief timescale.
Every session is different and may well include some modelling (“And whereabouts in your stomach is that knot?”, “And when you see a bird, then what happens?); dialoguing (“And if Fred was here now … what would you like to be able to say to him?”); time line work (“Imagine floating way up above your life … and back to the first time that it ever happened …”); spatial work (“Move to a space in the room that knows about …”); visualization (“And if you were to imagine being there now …”); technique learning (such as breathing exercises, meridian tapping or peripheral vision).
During sessions I am very attentive to all my senses – especially to my sense of external feeling. This ability could be called rapport, empathy, intuition or clairsentience. I use it to sense the emotional structures in and around a client in order to choose and pace my communications.
Session length and therapy duration
Many therapists work a 50 minute ‘hour’ with average fees in London ranging from £30 to £120 for this time. Longer term therapy can last for years and some therapists have contracts in which the the therapist is allowed a holiday but clients have to pay for all missed sessions – even if they give prior notice.
In my experience 50 minutes is just not long enough for us to settle down, get into deep work, work through it and close the session properly. When you also consider the time you invest travelling to and from the session I believe longer sessions offer far greater value for money. While I can see the value of a regular therapy meeting I also recognise that busy people have diaries that change from week to week. I prefer to offer flexible appointments which you can book week to week and are free to move or cancel so long as you give me at least 48 hours notice.
I usually see people once a week for the first few weeks. As we work through more stuff and as things start to settle down it is usual for us to meet less frequently. How long does therapy last? My answer is ‘for as long as it offers you good value for money’. For some people this is just a handfull of sessions to address a specific issue; for others it a regular part of their long term personal development. It is common for clients to take therapy breaks and contact me months or years later to resume sessions.