Tag Archives: Limiting beliefs

I keep attracting the wrong kind of relationships, can a psychotherapist help?

Do you feel unable to find that special someone?  Do you consistently seem to attract the ‘wrong’ type of person?  Do you find yourself putting on an act when you talk to a potential partner?

It is easy to blame external factors for a lack of suitable partner; the first step is to take responsibility for the situation.  Unresolved issues and the beliefs we hold lead us to unconsciously seek out relationships which support or fuel them.  In particular we are likely to continually attract relationships that play out aspects of our parents’ relationship.  If we do not genuinely love and respect ourselves we send out the message that we are not deserving of these feelings back.  When we try to cover up our insecurities we can come across as arrogant or superficial.

Gaining a real understanding of what is important to you will help you to let go of any fears and limiting beliefs and focus on what you really want in a relationship.  Realising what is attractive about yourself will help others to see this in you.  You can begin to enjoy going out there, meeting new people, being natural, friendly and flirtatious.


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Can NLP help with my physical illness?

Are you suffering from an injury or dis-ease of some sort?  Have you found that ‘conventional’ medicine has not achieved the results you desire (or has unwelcome side effects)?  Are you keen to learn to utilise your mind to accelerate the healing process?

The existence of psychosomatic illnesses and the placebo effect are well documented. Controversial cutting-edge research is making explicit links between unexpected traumatic emotional events and the existence of cancer in the body.  Quantum level theories are beginning to describe the link between thought and matter.  We are being challenged to think about wellness in a new and holistic way.

Releasing negative emotions and any limiting beliefs about your dis-ease will enable you to relax more fully and allow the natural healing process to take it’s course.  This healing may be accelerated by helping your mind to concentrate your energy on making you well again.

I recommend that you consult your GP first if you feel unwell.  If you are currently under treatment I may require a letter of consent from your GP before we start working together.

I believe I’m a failure … and keep on proving myself right

Do you expect certain situations to go badly, feel bad about it, perform badly and prove yourself right?  Do you avoid certain situations entirely?  Are you trying to keep up appearances but feel hollow inside – as if you are about to cave in?  Deep down inside do you believe that you are a failure, not good enough, a bad person or unworthy?

At certain times in our lives the images we have built for ourselves can begin to get a bit shaky as aspects of ourselves we have ignored come to the surface and demand our attention. Seemingly complex situations are often underpinned by the limiting beliefs about ourselves that we took on early in our lives.  These beliefs affect the way we perceive the world, the way we feel in ourselves, the way we act and, therefore, the results that we get. The cycle continues.

By resolving the underlying issues you are able to stop acting. Limiting beliefs disappear when you realise, at the deepest level, that they are not and never were actually true.  Your natural confidence returns and you feel whole again.  You can behave and interact in an authentic way – allowing others to see the real you.